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Date: Dec 5th, 2013
Motion: THW encourage science rather than choice on match-making Internet sites
Role: Min. (gov.)
Dear Assemblage, Chair, House, Ladies and Gentlemen,
In this speech, my aim is to go from a) why choice is not free will to b) an example of a bad choice to c) lessons of the past to d) what kind of science might work, even if it did not. In other words, this division deals directly with the wording of the motion today. Let us kick off.
The Delusion of Free Will
We like to think that we choose romantically right, but in reality I think the familiar takes precedence over the the foreign. A boy may leaf through the pages of a glossy fashion-model magazine only to find out that the women he fancies the most actually look like versions of her own mother when she was younger and in childbearing age. Biology, genes and familiarity are the master of the ”free” will, which in turn subordinates itself as a ”slave”.
I have coined the following rule: the rule of As Gentle or Gentler Than Myself which, explained in short, means that trait-wise we’d like to find a partner whose body odor, temperament and height (in this case rather short than tall) matches ours or is milder, more pleasant or more lenient. But, when it comes to descendants of ours, we might benefit from exactly the opposite qualities, traits or characteristics in our partner.
An Example of a Bad Choice
Prince Edward, King Edward VIII of Great Britain, gave up on the throne as he fell in love with an American woman, Wallis Simpson, in the 1930’s. Their affair or relationship resulted in love, but the former king became redundant for the rest of his life, when he could have had it both ways and ruled over England as its designated monarch. Had he not given a toss about love, he could have made something out of (t)his life. He died in 1972.
Lessons by the Past
So, the opposite of a freely chosen, romantic marriage is an agreed and negotiated marriage that is so well documented in most of Jane Austen’s books such as Pride and Prejudice. Marriage therein was a deal, with dowries and sweeteners coming along with it, and marriages then lasted often longer than today for reasons of necessity but also for excellent choices by those who took part in the process. We’d like to think of this kind of external choice as the natural counterpoint to this debate and an example of things working out outside of and beyond choice by a free will.
Science as a Help
What kind of science would we champion to accomplish good pairs?
Statistics means tables of info or data, but statistics also happens to be a science in its own right, known in Finnish as ’tilastotiede’. I would use it to attain pair(ing)s.
It could be figured out based on historical evidence and questionnaires as to what unites successfully married and happy couples across the board. When the key factors were found out, newcomers to match-making sites should be asked for the relevant information in addition to the voluntary depictions of themselves that they had submitted to the site. Ultimately, the machine or webmaster behind the site could/should join the dots and begin suggesting potential matches to individual users, with caveats about partial potential mismatches. Statistics would be the science guiding us forward on the mountain of love.
I’d like to conclude by saying that it’s feasible to get the curve to rise with help from science in pairing people off. The odds are stacked for them. Love can break your heart, but science can help you make a new start.
Puheen kesto: 4 min 35 sek
Arvio: Tämä aloite löytyy aiemmastakin, vastikäisestä puheesta, mutta ao. sisältö oli erilainen ja rooli viimeisen puhujan. Sävy on kuitenkin samantyyppinen, koska puheet on kirjoitettu saman puolen (eli hallituksen) nimissä. Tässä on vähemmän pituutta ja selkeämpi rakenne. Tämä sopii paremmin maallikolle ja toimii roolissaan ehkä paremmin kuin linkattu puhe toimii whipin puheena. Mutta makuasioista ei ”sovi” kiistellä.