Week 16
Benchmark for Love.
Motion: THS relationship “projects” as an antivenom to Tinder culture
Role: Deputy Leader (gov.)
It seems that Tinder is not bringing about the desired change in how people perceive and receive each other in love. Tales about how it is a dreary place abound. From creepy dates to ghosting to hookup disappointments to photo disasters, the app is not living up to its promise as the cybermarket of human relationships. E.g. following statements have been made about it: “people in open relationships go on it but have to go undercover, because their mutual friends do not like it”, “there is a nagging feeling that someone better could always come along” and “there is a surprising amount of LONG-MARRIED people on Tinder, looking for semi-erotic playthings”. Tinder operates on the principle: Amator quasi piscis, nequam est nisi recens. I have a novel solution beyond Tinder and I am presenting it here. It could be termed love project or project love, whichever way around.
Project in the Past: Woman Takes on an Alcoholic
What I’m on about is that people should start dating people who are on a lower level than they themselves as a whole, as GPA human beings. People should take people on who represent a challenge, in the way a couple take on a challenge when they buy a flat that will necessitate a thorough renovation before it becomes habitable for them. In the past, what this referred to was when a salaried, working woman hooked up with an alcoholic in the hopes of making a decent man out of him. In theory, it is easy to transform an alcoholic. Put him in the bath and have his beard, hair and sideburns cut and give him a new set of clothing. Buy him aftershave and give him Eau de Toilette. A different creature would emerge after this makeover. The bigger challenge, nonetheless, would be to stop him from drinking and going back to his bad, old habits. Setting him up with a cup of coffee is not enough after years of hard drinking.
What caused people to chuckle and laugh was the success rate: it was often shockingly bad. Women could not turn alcoholics into BF’s, flames or married husbands. They were often forced to give up on the guy after a few days, weeks or months. What needs to be borne in mind is this: there needs to be something, some quality about the projected human that is better or on a higher level than in the upper-hand party. It is a prerequisite for the latter to have a right amount of motivation to push through.
Project Where Roles Reverse: Man Takes on an Oversensitive or Poorly Educated Woman
Women with alcoholics is just one tried example. Men could also take on projects. They could begin to hang out with a woman who was shy and timid around crowds, events and individuals. If the man persisted and took the woman out sufficiently, to ice-hockey rinks, opera and rock concerts, at times ready to back off if she felt the need to flee, he might be able to transform the woman into a sociable being who actually liked to be at the centre of things. Likewise, the man, if and when educated at a seat of higher learning, could try to turn a woman with just a vocational school behind her into a Lady, who knew about etiquette, norms, theories and other stuff that is taught in an academic environment, something the man might have learnt decades or years ago, complementing also his sophistication thereafter.
And it would not have to stop there. Roles could be reversed. A young woman could date a so-called hikikomori or NEET, which means a young man who has given up on his hopes to become a taxpayer and retreated to his mancave at home with his parents, who’d take care of his material needs. The drawbacks of a hikikomori would be obvious to a girl, but the takeaway was that a hikky is usually intelligent and knows his way around IT, his main getaway. His company could be highly rewarding if the woman was endowed with the kind of mindset that appreciates thin recluses who are smart. Incels, on the other hand, it would be advisable to stay clear of.
Pros: They Are Far Easier to Get and Society Improves One (or Two) Individual(s) at a Time
What’s gratifying about choosing projects is that these people would not put up a fight in getting to know them. Few wanted them anyway. If someone did, the road would have been paved. When the better-equipped worked his or her magic, life of the other party would begin to improve. That would have a positive effect primarily on the individual and secondarily on society. And, if the initially stronger one persisted in the relationship, his or her life could also potentially be transformed in the form of a relationship that was based on something else than greed, jealousy and superficiality.
If people began to go down this path more and more often, Tinder might begin falling out of favour. Soon, one could only find black widows, catfishers, con artists, fitness queens, narcissists, pervoes and sociopaths on Tinder, something we have suspected all along, and better still, the app could become a veritable Rogues Gallery for the police to utilise, if and when only unsavoury people chose to remain there.
Perustelu(t)/puolustelu(t). On tärkeää, etten tyhjennä pajatsoa toiminnallani. Minun pitää jättää poletteja myös muille joukkuetovereilleni. Jätän yhdelle mahdollisuuden väittää, että Tinder on täynnä kaupallisia prostituoituja ja seuralaisneitejä tuhmien setien lisäksi. En siis mainitse siitä. En myöskään mainitse MadTV:n sketsiä Lowered Expectations, joka käsittelee VHS-kasettien aikaista deittausympäristöä, missä pärjäsi aina paremmin, jos ei “toivonut liikoja”.
Polar Ice Standpoints Society 